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what do you think about me?

I would need to know who you are - or at least a little bit about you - in order to answer that question.

Do you agree that the current society is really **cked up about homo$exual people?

Society in general in Australia? No.

Certainly, there are pockets of homophobia, manifesting itself in bullying, violence, discrimination and political games. However, in the general population, I've found that most ordinary people really don't care.

Our newspapers are full of the suicide of a thirteen-year old boy in Queensland who was subjected to bullying and violence. In my life, I've lost friends to the same tragedy, having even lost a friend who was tortured and murdered because he was gay. However, this does not, in my view, reflect general community attitudes as much as it may have done in the late 1960s when I was coming to terms with who I am.

I see obviously gay couples shopping in my local area. I witness male coupes sharing a quick kiss as the go about their separate ways. I have worked with transgender folk in harmonious work-places. A lady-friend chats about her wife quite comfortably in mixed company.

There is still a distance to travel, a distance that would be considerably shortened with marriage equality, but we have, as far as I can see, come a long way.

Hi. I'm male, 19, and 5'2. Do you want to **** me?

I'd need to know a lot more about you, and I prefer to be the one being ****ed.

Hi there yesterday I went for a drive it was very nice I just thought I'd tell you that

I'm pleased that you enjoyed it.

Why no like Ian meldrum

It's not a matter of liking or not liking the man, he has simply not done anything that I see as attracting my interest. Some people are fascinated by him, while some are not.

Did you watch Molly the TV show.

I haven't done. Not a fan of Ian Meldrum.

Hello sailor

Ummm... Hello...?

Do u watch the Australian tennis open

I never got into sports that don't involve engines.

How's little bubba

Doing great. Possibly the best-behaved baby I have known.

Did u get any gifts at Christmas, if so, what were they

Due to a severely tight budget this year, we didn't do the gift exchange thing.

Would you dance if I asked you to dance

Would you run and never look back?

Are you aware that 95% of women do not like men in pink shirts. And that 95% of men in pink shirts don't like women

I have heard it's so.

Now that Justin Bieber is a fully grown man is he your type most guys would imagine him to be very very good looking is he your dream

No. A little bulked up for me, and still behaves like a petulant brat.

Having seen images of him nude,, there is a mild attraction, but not much.

Do you like joy fm

I confess I've not listened to JoyFM. However, now you've brought it up, I'll make a point of tuning in.

Do you like to $ex with Chinese man or this you not so much like to have the $ex.

I have always preferred a partner who is shorter than me, and preferably very slim. Race/colour/religion make little or no difference to me, (although the ability to speak some English does help). Many Chinese men fit the description of my preferred partner so the nationality is no barrier whatsoever. I have, on rare occasions, enjoyed $exual connection with Chinese men, and it's been my experience that they are men like any other nationality. I take the view that people who target or avoid specific races run the risk of missing out on meeting a wonderful man.

As a gay man what is the most hurtful thing that was ever said to you

I think probably in the early years of HIV/AIDS when I was told f*****s were filthy, disease-ridden rats. That was possibly the worst thing I've ever been told.

Do you know any gay people who have taken their own lives. Did it ever cross your mind

I know some who took their own lives during the earlier years of HIV/AIDS - mainly due to the stigma associated with it. I know a couple of younger guys who suicided through believing society would never accept them. I also personally knew a couple of murder victims. I've never had cause to think of ending my own life, which could be just that I've been lucky in the way the world treats me. Bullying, it would seem, is one of the largest causes of suicide, which is one of the reasons I won't tolerate bullies. Another major cause is depression - not just being depressed, but the condition known as depression - and that's not a condition many of us understand. Indeed, experts don't understand it that well either.

Have you ever been so in love that you could honestly say that you adored that person

Absolutely - on more than one occasion. I still find myself in that situation, but nature has determined that isn't going to be.

Over the years has love brought you more heart ache or joy

Love has brought both joy and heartache. However, when balanced out, the joy tends to make the heartache well worth taking the risk of allowing oneself to give in to love.

Do you have any real big problems at the moment

When compared with many people around the world, not really. People with disabilities face many real and societal problems. People are oftentimes wrongfully imprisoned. Some people suffer life-shortening illnesses. I have a few serious financial problems, so it's fair to say I am not doing too badly.

Do you break wind in company or wait till alone

When you need to, you need to...

Hong Kong or New York

Hong Kong. America holds no fascination for me.

How long have you been in Melbourne

Since September 1985. I came here from Perth.

If you won a million dollars what would be your spending plan

A million dollars doesn't go far nowadays. So I would probably look after those who selflessly offered support during my hard times. Maybe get a decent car and a small, comfortable house.

I like you steve

Thank you. If only I knew who you were, perhaps I could return the compliment.

How is the new grandbaby

Noisy and still hasn't got a job. Cute, though. I don't think she likes me.

Have you ever helped a homeless person in any way at all.

On occasions when I have had money, I have sometimes been able to share lunch with a homeless person. I can offer contact numbers where they can seek assistance, I get to know someone new and, most importantly, it pisses off pompous waiters.

Which way do you vote, liberal, labour, greens, etc.

I tend toward Labor, but I also consider policies - especially law & order and justice matters.

In your case, does being gay mean you're not interested at all in a relationship with a woman, or just that you prefer males.

I am exclusively interested in men for romance and $ex, but I am happy to have women as friends.

If you were a woman would you be a lesbian

I have absolutely no idea. I think I would probably still like men, but I couldn't be sure.

How much wood, would a woodchuck chuck, if a woodchuck had a chainsaw

Unicorns. White ones.

Have you ever been really really hungry

Oh yes! A few times. This, of course, makes it more likely that I would offer a meal to a stranger.

Do you do nappies

Grandad does NOT do nappies! It's a rule!

Is it noisy in your household with a new baby

Not yet. Baby is very quiet - so far...

Have you ever contemplated suicide. If so how did you convince yourself not too

I'm happy to say I have never considered suicide.

Are you aware that by sharing your accomadation you can greatly reduce your rental burden.

I am aware of that. I share with my son and his partner, and soon a baby. Their income is very low. I decided some time ago that the next person I share with will be the guy who marries me.

how much does your weekly rent cost.

Over $300

Have you ever been scared and found safety in a group. Yeah I know it's a weird question but many scared and frightened people join gangs or groups to feel secure

When I was a lot younger, being gay in Perth was not a safe thing. I felt very much safer in a large group It's not so weird. We all feel safety in numbers. However, joining a gang isn't necessarily the right answer if the intention is to make others scared.

If a person is TRULY AND DESPERATELY SORRY for what they have done, can you forgive anything

I consider that I have a strong sense of justice. If a person confesses and is truly repentant, to not give them another chance is an injustice. Short answer - yes!

Is global warming over blown rubbish

The one thing I know for sure is that the scientific community doesn't know for sure. While I have to wonder if we are seeing natural fluctuations in meteorological and geological variations, I don't believe mankind is doing the planet any favours. We constantly s*ck resources out from under the planet's skin while pumping the resultant waste products into the atmosphere. Simple logic must suggest this can't be a good plan. On the other hand, even with our best (or worst) efforts, Nature can get pretty vicious when she defends herself and some believe that, eventually, man will take too much and Nature will erupt, destroying everything in its path. I don't know. But can we continue to tempt fate?

Are you in deep mourning at the loss of our dear leader tony abbott

Oh - shattered. Now we just wait to see if the new one cocks it up as badly.

How often do you eat healthy things like salad. Do you focus much on health

I tend to eat whatever takes my fancy, with little thought to health. That being said, I enjoy steaming vegetables with a winter meal, or a fresh garden salad with a steak in summer.

If you don't want to answer this that's fine. I looked at your album for Thomas Ryan and just wonder could you tell us about him. He looked like a lovely young man

Thomas was and is a very special part of my life, but a long story. Feel free to PM me on Facebook for more.

Google WTC7 and tell us what you think

An interesting conspiracy theory, but hardly compelling evidence. I have discussed this with engineers and architects who refuse to be drawn on what they say is pretty flimsy evidence.

Do you have a motorbike licence. Do you have any special talents like singing dancing

I used to think I could sing. Then, one time, I heard a tape of myself. Turned out I was wrong. The only talent I have is that I am a reasonable photographer. No motorcycle licence.

Has a man that you have no attraction too at all ever fallen in love with you, if so how did you deal with it

It has happened. (Not boasting). The only way to handle it is with honesty and understanding. Simply accept it as the complement it is, and point out that it can't go further than friendship. The key is honest communication.

If you finally met that special someone and were in a relationship and very happy, would you be ok with that person not wanting to be totally monogamous. Just a little here and there but yours otherwise

That wouldn't suit me. I'm really old-fashioned about monogomy, and I would be completely unable to stray. I would want the same in a partner. That being said, I accept that this behaviour is quite acceptable to others.

Is there a hole in your heart I don't mean a literal hole in your heart, something really really missing to fill up your heart. Something that actually hurts that you haven't got

Yes. There are holes left by those who have left, and a gaping hole waiting to be filled by a partner.

Have you ever punched a hole through the wall in anger

No. I guess I'm just not that angry.

Can a guy who is totally straight become totally gay

If a man or a woman is truly exclusively hetero$exual, I would very much doubt that he or she could become homo$exual in the $exuality sense of the word - but, not being an expert, I don't know that for sure. However, it is eminently possible that a hetero$exual man could learn to enjoy the physical act of same-gender $ex, as opposed to the romantic act of same-gender partnership. Much the same as some women may enjoy an occasional physical $ex act with another woman. I have personally known a very small number of exclusively hetero$exual men who have enjoyed an occasional trip to the dark side, and then happily reverted to their usual preferences. My personal view is that this is OK provided there is absolute honesty and trust between the two (or more) people involved.

Some also say rejection from a father may cause a gay desire in men. A longing for male affection. Other say an overbearing mother. For me it was just seeing guys in the change room at high school. Couldn't stop thinking of them

I was adopted at an early age. My adoptive parents were certainly both very attentive parents for me and my subsequent brothers. So, in my case, that argument must fall. There will be many "some say" propositions, and I would doubt whether, in my lifetime, there will be any definitive answer to the question of why some people are homo$exual.

There is no such thing as a gay gene, so what causes it. Could it be as some have said a subconscious reaction to childhood trauma, a desire to find a joyous world away from reality

I have no idea. There is also no straight gene. One could also ask why a man would love one woman, but not another. That is equally inexplicable.

Imagine you are marooned on a tropical island for one year with all food and necessities supplied and it's just you and a woman that every straight guy would adore, as a gay man would you end up making love to her in 12 mnth

Possibly not. I have managed quite well so far without $ex for over a year.

Do you love me. I mean really love me. Then tell me what you want what you really really want

That would make a good song lyric. Seriously though, there is someone I love, but what I really, really want is immaterial. It doesn't make sense to focus on my baser desires and risk a beautiful friendship.

https://www.facebook.com/help/delete_account.....does this mean anything to you

I'm guessing it's instructions on how to delete a Facebook account.

你有沒有去釣魚在早晨或大多在晚上
Nǐ yǒu méiyǒu qù diàoyú zài zǎochén huò dàduō zài wǎnshàng

I only read and write English. Google Translate shows you asked when I go fishing. I don't go fishing.

Kuh set mol Koo deed known Judy lop cdt

I have no idea what that means.

Actually it was the 99th question. Are you happy to have reached this mile stone

I'm not sure. It could mean I spend altogether too much time waffling on the electric interwebs.

Have you ever used Chinese medicine or massage.

About fifteen years ago, I cut across the top side of the base of my thumb. While trying to find out if a local Doctor would be able to put a couple of sutures in, my then employer, a Chinese man, poured a powder on the wound, which stopped bleeding immediately. He said it was a natural Chinese herbal treatment for various forms of haemorrhaging. I have no idea what it was. Doctor wiped off the powder and the bleeding started again, heavily. We reapplied the powder (given to me in a little bag) and Doctor decided it was a better treatment than sutures. I now have difficulty finding even the scar.

Did you realise that this is your one hundredth questipn

I didn't, but I am happy to take your word for that.

Are you aware that the average human being farts 14 times a day

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that I know some seriously above-average people then. In my house it's like... "Good morning - PHRAHRP!"

Do you believe in aliens and UFOs

Given the size of the Universe - which is really unknown - I think that to presume only our planet is inhabited would be, at best, arrogant. To think that there aren't beings vastly superior and advanced is simply denial and an over-estimation of our intelligence.

How often do you go out for just a coffee

Several times a week. Interestingly, it's a lot cheaper to make coffee at home, but it's so much more interesting to sit at a cafe and watch the ordinary people going about their little lives.

How often do you use public transport. Do you have any money on a myki card

I rarely use public transport. I have $3.00 on the Mickey Mouse card.

Boo

Yup. Still awake. Not for long though.

If the law permitted it would you go naked often. This time of year would be very cold. Do you agree that our society is far too quick to call child nudity, p*rn.

I would only ever dress for environmental or safety reasons, should the laws permit. I don't see any nudity as p*rnography. I note that images of tribal people living nude are not considered that way and I see no reason why any nudity - of whatever age - should be considered p*rnographic. The problem is that western society has been conditioned to associate nudity with $ex.

What attracts you about the nudist or naturist lifestyle

Pure comfort. I have not, for as long as I remember, been comfortable wearing anything. It is only the Law that forces me to dress when I go out - that and the freezer section of the supermarket makes everything shrink.

Do you think tony Abbott is pretty hot

Hell no!!

Was it traumatic discovering your first grey hair. How old were you at that time

Not really. My hair went grey steadily over a two year period during my mid-thirties. I just kind of accepted it. The only time it impacted was when I visited my parents interstate one year and my mother greeted me by saying, "Good grief! You're so grey!" Finding my first grey pube was worse. I was absolutely horrified. Not as horrified as the other people on the train though.

How has your body changed between twenty nine and fifty nine. Do you ever look in the mirror naked and go "lookin hot" or do you go "hmmm"

Time and gravity are cruel masters when, like me, one is not a fan of the gymnasium. I look in the mirror and see that my stomach sticks out slightly and there is a general softness about my shape. As a nudist, there are occasional household photos that show a distinct sagging in the bottom, (not readily seen in a mirror). That being said, being a year short of sixty, I'm not all that dissatisfied with the way I look.

Do you go to McDonald's

On rare occasions when McDonalds for dinner gets the popular household vote. I've never been just for me though, as I'm not over-keen on the products.

What's under your bed?

Dust!

You prefer a short skinny guy......hmmm time for Danny devito to go on a diet

What really really pisses you off

Selfishness and bullying.

Is there a special place in your heart for a special someone. If you could create your perfect lover what would you create

There are many places in my heart - each one for a special someone, be it a family member or a true friend. There is a special someone I hold a place open for in regards to romance - but it seems unlikely that he wishes to accept that place. In which case, at least I have his friendship. If I could create a perfect lover, I probably wouldn't. The chances and risks are very much a part of romance and, if one knew in advance that one's lover complied to a specific design, then the magic would be lost. But, for personal taste, it's fair to say that a short, skinny guy can leave me a little breathless.

Give me five dollar, I love you long time

Hehehehe

Where did you get the coffee in your profile pic.

This coffee is made with a coffee "pod" machine at home.

How do you cope with loneliness as in if you are ever by yourself in the house does it bother you or do you prefer to be alone. Worst say driving across the desert all by yourself would you be okay

I generally find my alone time to be just as enjoyable as social time. I think it's a matter of being happy in one's own company.

Sounds like a fantastic Friday to me. I just love simplicity. What time is bed time and does it take you long to doze off.

Bed time is about now - 10:30pm Melbourne, Australia time. I should be asleep not many minutes after my head hits the pillow.

Describe a usual Friday night for you

Really simple - Sit at home with dinner and a bit of TV with my son, his girlfriend and the dog. I've never been what is considered exciting.

There once was a fella named steve,
who saw girls and started to heave,
he ran far away,
and discovered he's gay
now when girls come he tell them to leave

Cute! Not quite accurate, but cute.

What cheers you up ?

My brothers don't care one way or the other. My mother would probably prefer it wasn't the case but accepts it as an immutable part of my character. My father chooses not to discuss the matter, which is simply his way of handling the situation. At no time have I felt that I am not a loved member of the family.

Do you have any living parents or uncles or brothers and sisters

My parents and a brother live in Australia. Another brother lives in England. I have a fairly large number of other relatives in England too, but none that I was ever very close to.

Has any woman ever fallen in love with you only to be disappointed when she found out that you weren't that way inclined

There have been a couple who professed live who already knew I was gay, and hoped to change that. I find that immensely flattering but an impossible goal. While being gay is not my most overwhelming characteristic, it is an unchangable characteristic.

Steve I think you are a thoroughly likeable man and wish you true happiness.

Thank you - whoever you are. Feel free to message me and introduce yourself if there's a way to do that.