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Hi Mr L,how does one tell their lover they are HIV positive. I want to come clean but I'm afraid I'll loose the person and be alone again.
As quickly as possible. Before either one of you fall too deeply. Give him the option to leave or stay early on. That way you know that he is staying willingly, knowing all the facts, should he decide to stay. It is only fair to both of you, that way.
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What makes men to cheat on their ladies yet after they declare how much they love them?
In our minds, the two things are actually unrelated. It's like saying why do people strive at 200km/h when they claim to love you. While they are doing it, they are not thinking of you and how it would affect you. They are enjoying the thrill of the moment.
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does stress really affect a man's performance in bed? my man has had his worst days at work 4the past 2months.we get2 bed like bro& sis.he wakes up,off to work again.he tells me he is stressed.i get stressed & still want2jump on him.Just dont get it
Sadly, it does. Stress affects us differently. Some people turn into bunny rabbits and use the bed as stress relief. While others totally lose their libido. There's no right or wrong way to respond to a crisis situation. We are all wired differently.
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I met a guy.told me was Separated from his wife.he wants me but afraid of this woman attacking me coz she's done it to someone.he begged me to wait for him while he sort things.we hardly communicate anymore.i want 100% of him not what im getting.should I wait
Hold up...wait a minute, stop the presses! Here's a truly unique story. A man who is separated from his wife and absolutely promises, scout's honor, that once he is done getting rid of her, he will be ALL yours. You said it yourself, the wife has attacked the last woman who fell for the same story that you are busy falling for, now. What makes YOU so different that he will finally leave her, for real, this time?
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He talks bot marriage bt thr s no action.. Been 2gthr 4 5yrs nw n m getting impatient nw, Is he 4 real? Du u thnk its goin happen?
Is he not being put off by the Mxit language? Only he can answer that.
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Uncle L, is it normal not to enjoy your man going down on you?
Hahahahaa! Welllllll...what is normal? If it doesn't do it for you, it doesn't. Of course, you don't really say whether you have never enjoyed it with other people either. Or is just his cunnilingus that you don't enjoy?
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Have you ever had feelings for a friend?
Loads of times! The best relationships are formed on a foundation of friendship. HOWEVER...we need to learn the difference between a friendship evolving to a relationship and a "never gonna happen" friend zone situation.
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my guy friend said he can't be friends with me anymore because he's in love with me. He's deleted me on social networks and he doesn't answer my calls.he says this is the only way to get over me. What to do coz this is my friend?
Clearly he feels that his feelings are stronger than your friendship. It is a decision he has taken, which sadly, you have to live with.
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"How can u direct someone to a place you've never been yoself"? I lik that statement in yo book! I even got to know my body yesterday until I reached an orgasm! I'm now in no hurry to get a man! Thanks for the book :-)
My pleasure. And evidently, yours too! :-)
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I have a good man that I'm involved with, problem is I get so afraid that he will leave me that i end up plotting ways of leaving him 1st, he has reassure me several times that he loves me and he want to be with me, why am i sabotaging/feeling like this?
I'm glad you brought up that word. Sabotage. Sometimes, we become so used to being unhappy, that we are afraid of actually allowing ourselves to be happy, because the higher you fly the bigger the fall. Decide to be happy. Allow yourself to be happy. It really is a choice.
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I always fall for guys 5-6years older than I am. See, I find guys my age so immature for me and I\'m always comfortable around old people. Growing up, I\'ve always felt way older than my actuall age. Is this somethin I should worry about?
No. It's a choice, no different to only dating tall or dark men, or indeed, liking younger men. Your life. Your choice.
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I heard muff is not good for health,apparently all those juices don't belong in the mouth. Is there any truth to this?
Nonsense!
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Hi LAY, every time I'm about to *** I tend to hold myself back thinking its pee only to find out that's its not,how do I let myself go completely? How do I enjoy it?I'm very comfortable with my body and him. Pls do help me
Hahahah! I knew the *ex questions would start coming. (excuse me). Ok, here's what you do: Before you get down, go empty your bladder. Take a pee and know for a fact that there is nothing in there. And when you feel a feeling that feels like pee....let rip! Let it go!
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Hw du I tell him dt I dnt like his friend?
Hi friends don't have to be your friends. Unless you are suggesting that you don't want him to be friends with that friend, any more. In which case, you would need to give your reasons. But never make him choose. It is not fair.
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hw do I make my man more comfortble accepting my help financialy. we both young profesiona and he earns more than I do bt he has more responsibilities even when I say im payng he goz out of his way to pay nd strugle the rest of the month.togethr 2yrs
A couple of factors are at play, here. 1. His manly ego. He is meant to be the provider. Accepting your help will make him feel like he is failing at this. 2. History has shown most of us that if you accept financial help from your woman, while things are good, if things ever go wrong, she'll be quick to tell the whole world "I spent so much on his broke as*!"
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hay ndoda unamava ngezothando kwaye uneengcebiso kwabo bafunayo ezingathembeka kuba awufihli makhuba. Ndiyavuyisana nawe ngala ncwadi yovuko lwabafazi...lol
Enkosi. Ndiyabulela!
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my husband of 14 year doesnt trust me at all he always suspect me of infertility. he is not working, stalking me and insecure, im on the process of divorcing him and he threaten me what should i do.
I assume you mean infidelity? Unfortunately he will be insecure, his very masculinity is threatened by being unemployed. I hope you are not leaving him because of finances. Those change.
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He dumped me today
Sorry to hear that. Be glad, he did, though. Rather that, than to string you along!
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what happened to the article with b*** j** tips?i looked everywhere
Had to hide it from my timeline. I got tired of annoying people reporting me to FB.
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Favourite car?
All time favourite: 1956 Mercedes 300 SL. Current fave: Aston Martin DBS Volante.
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L, was it you i saw on the Glasfit ad yesterday? And the voice in the Engen ad?
Glasfit, yes. Engen, no.
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Why don't you have a talk show yet?
All in good time!
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Dear uncle L,I hear that se*ercise is also good for weight loss,so how many times per week should one do it?
As often as you can get it!
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my so called bf hasnt communicated with me for a mnth nw,so if i move on(date again)would that count as cheating since we haven't officially broken up?
Get closure. Call him, text him or whatever. If only to confirm that you two are no more. Obviously it also depends on what the last thing was that you said to each other.
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Speaking of bad se* yho linda I have it all the time my man can't f*** to save his life and I tried every style there is but still nothing changes. His Dic* gets soft after he gets inside me. What can I do to help him?
Men's Clinic! Quickly! Even a GP will help!
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Hey Uncle L...a friend was recently diagnosed with HIV and I don't like my reaction to the news..He trusted me enough to tell me and I behaved like a Dic*.any idea how I can make a mence to him
Look, it is never easy to talk to anybody about ones status. The scariest thing is always how people are going to react. Your friend trusted you enough to open up to you and you let him down. But I am sure he was not surprised. That is the biggest fear that everybody has. All you can do is go back to him and tell him that you got scared, and you freaked out. Apologise. And just be there for him. He will come around.
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So, you are single now? Can I take you on a date?
Sure.
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Malume uLinda what do i make of this?....my best friend always says ufuna siqabulane,even a baby kiss nje.
Usuke efuna ucansi. LOL! Girl, if you are not comfortable with the suggestion...just say no.
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Hi, L. Im forever thinking about se* even when I'm at work. Is that normal?
Well...what IS normal? Just as long as you can actually do your work, i guess.
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They way u going on about hiv and aids and the using of condoms. Is it somehow personal or you just decided to be an ambas*odor of the epidemic?
Somebody has to do it.
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If u were to go back and date ur ex's which one would it be?
An ex is an ex for a reason. So, NONE.
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hey Linda am a woman with 2 kids and am a size 40 my man is a size 32 and am worried about the size thing(how will we look like in 5years) the thing is he wants to marry me, his everything I have ever wanted in a man but in the wrong packaging. What do I do?
If i am understanding you correctly....he has no problem with your size. You have a problem with his. Am I right?
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Undengezi kamayebuka had how many wives ?
38
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Y do men go crazy abwt da nr of se*ual partnerz their gfs had(whch r nt mo than 5) wyl theyv probably slept wit mo grls than p*rn stars
Insecurity...they feel that they are in competition with every guy you have ever slept with. And clearly they can't handle the competition. Even if you have slept with 1 guy, she will despise that guy for life.
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Y men lyk doin thngs 2 their gfs they wudnt want n lyk their gfs 2 do 2 em.eg.se*ting o befwndng sm1 who wants mo than fwndshp n wil do wateva they cn 2make it hpn
Huh?
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He askd me 2 end my frndshp wit guys who want me n i dd that bcoz i care bwt hs flngs.i askd hm 2 do da same bt he ddnt thn i told hm il continue bein fwnds wid dose ppl he askd 2 eliminate coz hez nt doin da same nw hez actng crazy n gvn me attitude
I don't know why you agreed to do it in the first place, to be honest. If he feels threatened by you having friends, chances are, he has some dodgy "friendships"
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I think am a control freak I mess up evrthing that I have I control my BF with evthing his money his family and his friends. I don't know what to do I hate this plz help me. We leave together
Stop being controlling. Or you WILL lose him.
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Y is it so hard 4 men 2b faithful?does ths planet hv men who r stl faithful 2 their prtnrz if so plz tel whr i cn find 1
I wish i could defend men on this one. But it is hard to do so....The phrase "men are as faithful as their options" unfortunately has loads of truth to it.
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He stopd callng me.wen i askd y he said hez busy coz of wrk.i decidd nt 2 cal hm 2.wen he askd y i dnt col i gav da same reasn he gv.nw he has a problm.u nva 2busy 4 sm1 u lv.accordin 2hm 'im messin up a gud thn'.watsup wid hm
Interesting how that double standard works. When he neglects you, he is busy, when you neglect him, you are messing up a good thing. He is just plain selfish. He is on a power trip. As much as i believe that 2 wrongs never make a right, sometimes it takes you showing somebody what they are putting you through for them to see what you are complaining about. To put them in YOUR shoes for a change.
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So many wmn r afta my man even older 1s.i ddnt hv a prblm coz my bf alwys told em he has a gf he lvs n is nt interestd.wat irritates me nw is sm of these b... sent me msgs on fb.i told ma bf n thngs got ugly.thes b...act lyk psychos.dnt lyk drama.wat 2 do
I seriously battle with this shorthand. But, bottom line....just as long as the 2 of you know where you stand with one another, you should not be bothered by things that outside people say.
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Malume, Iv bin wit my bf 4 2yrs, n since movin 2 a different province I found out dat he's livin with another woman. When I bring this up he gets aggressive. Does he still love me? Is this a rescuable mission or a sinking ship???
Are you asking me if you should be upset that your boyfriend of 2 years is living with another woman. Really?
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Hey L I\'ve had unbelievable se* with a man bt somehow developed feelings for him he\'s got a steady girl now and I\'d rather cut ties with him than play 2nd,he still talks about the se* and how much he loves my company what do I do?
I am just glad that he has not given you the impression that this is about anything else other than se*. That should keep things clear to you that he wants nothing more than se*. Needless to say, if you find yourself falling for him, it means you are just not a No Strings Attached kinda girl. So do like Johnny Walker and KEEP WALKING. Otherwise you WILL get hurt.
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Hi bhut Linda, I've always wanted to know... What's your take on polygamy?
It depends.....Needless to say, in our patriarchal society, it tends to favour men more than women. However, if both parties are happy with it, then why not? I know many very happy people in polygamous setups.
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do man even look at a fat woman??how does one catch a man's attention
Of course they do! We all have our individual tastes. I have friends who are attracted ONLY to tiny women, while others love only big women. Don't DO anything to catch a man's attention. Be yourself, be comfortable in your own skin and if you and him find each other, then you know you can keep it up because you were being YOU.
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I've bn wit married man 4 3yrs(yes its wrong but nyway) he has started teln me about problems he n his wife r hAving n Askn me for advice,wen I ask him y hes teln me,he says who else must he ask. Y is he doing this?is he trying to chase me away?
He is MARRIED!!!! Hellooooooooo! Anybody home? What's next? Is he going to come to you and ask you to babysit while he goes on a date with his wife? Wakeup Woman! Get your own man.
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He says he lvs me bt he doesn col anymo.we in a distance r/shp n thats hw we communicate.askd hm y he doesn col,he says wrk is kpn hm busy.wats hs story?
He's just not that into you any more.
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(50 year old dating 24) its not a issue just wanted to know if its wrong in any level. i love the guy in fact i want a life with. my mother knows about this and she has no problem with it
Well....in my opinion, as long as you are happy.
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Am inlove with a 50 year old man and am 24. We work together and he makes me happy. He was married but it ended years ago. Is it wrong for me to love him or what.
Ok, here's the thing....you can love and date whoever you feel comfortable with IN THEORY. The question becomes; can you actually make the relationship work? Do you (both) have the emotional intelligence to look past the differences? This holds truw whether the difference is racial, cultural, age, religion or whatever. I must say, the fact that you are asking me the question says that it IS an issue for you already. And it says that YOU see it as a problem already. Let me illustrate my point; If he was Muslim and you were christian, would you have asked me the question? Or if he was Anglican and you were Catholic? Am guessing you wouldn't. Because it is a non issue. So, why is this one an issue? I'll tell you why. Because it also bothers you on some level.
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He wants se* everyday, is tht normal? We've been together for 4 years. Nt tht im complaining coz id hate it if he went seeking outside. Bt isnt tht too much se*? Oh yes i love him, i realy do.
Honestly, it is all relative. Depends on the individual. Some people believe that 3 times a day is what they expect and nothing less. It's all up to you.
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Hey Linda,I feel thrs more to se* than what Im gettin r used 2get. Been dating the guy who broke my virginity for almost 2yrs we r not on speaking terms now & Im tempted to taste another man. I dnt know what an orgasm feels like n hes never gone down on me.
Do guys who never go down on women still exist? REALLY? I have no idea how you tolerated that for 2 years. Look, to me it sounds like the problems in your relationship go beyond the se*ual. Maybe you just need to admit that the relationship itself is not working out.
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My bf says he njoys hvng *ex with me.if we not doing doggy o spooning hez always on top.i wana b on top n ride hm.cn u gv advice on hw i cn make it pleasurable 4 hm?
What makes you think it is not pleasurable to him right now? Do you feel that you need to be a rump shaker and do the kwasa kwasa on his Dic* for a man to enjoy se* with you? If you absolutely MUST, then get on top of him and pretend you are playing the hula hoop.
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honestly am afraid of hvng a serious bf cos I knw dy don't wanna use condom(after 2months of dating) so nna can't have se* ntle le cd bf2 so I just want a se* partner sm1 am gonna call wen nature calls do u think is a bad idea
Where on earth do you FIND these guys that insist on not using condoms after 2 months? More importantly...are you telling me you are totally unable to stand up for yourself and say "That thing is coming (excuse the pun) nowhere near me unless it is in a condom. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with a shag buddy if you want one. But I am worried that your reasons for wanting one are a bit twisted.
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My bf n i lv eachotha vry much.we hvn problms.thng is neitha 1 of us wants 2 make da 1st mve 2 fix it.wat 2 do?
Your question makes it very hard to give any advice. 1. You are quite economical with your vowels. 2. It is not clear, from your question what the problems are exactly. I mean...are they fixable? Some differences ARE irreconcilable. That is why there is divorce. Maybe you can't be bothered to fix it because you just don't think it is worth fixing?
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I have a problem am so dam insecure abt everything I don't trust him at all. We've been together 4 a year the things is I waz cheated on by my X so I can't get the thoughts out of my head. How can I stop this its ruining our relship
So...basically, you are letting your ex's run your current relationship via remote control? How's THAT working out for you? Stop letting your pasts mess up your present. Your insecurity is going to drive your man away. And future men, for that matter.
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He beat me up in a nite club in Brooklyn Pta! No1 tried 2 help until i ws saved by the bouncers! We'v bn 2getha 4 3yrs n hs neva dun sumthn lyk dis! I saw hm holdin gal he who l8r introduced s a frnd!
From your words, I am guessing that the 2 of you are still together. So, my question is....what is your question to me? If his actions were not enough to make you leave, what do you think words will achieve?
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Hey uncle, my b.f and I have been dating for a month, and everythng was good between us, all of the sudden he doesnt take my calls or respond to my sms's. Judgng by hs behaviour i knw he hs lost intrest. Bt therz 1 q in my mind.... WHY?
Hit and run. He got what he wanted. (My guess). What happened or changed just before he started being dodgy?
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*ex without a condom is far better than with, we both got tested & cleared & there\'s no chance of a pregnancy,maybe that\'s why he has all those condoms so he can use them with other women...honestly we are very responsible
Miss NSA
You are so right. se* without a condom is better. In the same way that driving without a seat belt or riding a bike without a helmet is better. Just remember that if a man is having unprotected se* with you, an NSA arrangements, he could be having the same setup with other NSA's of his. "We are very responsible" is contradictory in this statement.
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Been seeing a guy for 3mnths now, its not a relationship, just two adults enjoying each others company and the se*. Would it be a bad idea to want more from this, we both just came out of long term relationships and it was very bad break ups.
All I can say is; You both got into this wanting NSA. The moment your agenda changes, I suggest you put it on the table. Just be prepared for the possibility that all he wants is to keep it NSA and nothing more.
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If hv prblms,he breakup with her,thn after few day he *** back n pretend as if nothing happend n move on.is dis luv?
I'm sorry...what?
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Linda he broke up with me coz I farted while sleeping and went around telling his friends. C he\'s got a very small Dic* and he knows that too doesn\'t he think I can ruin his reputation? How do I get back @him?I'm over him just want revenge.
Ok...where's the camera? Clearly I am being Punk'd! Is this Leon Schuster? Or Whackhead Simpson?
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w've been speeking over the phone n internet we realy do mach in most of the thing knw he want us 2 meet n im so scared coz the things he says are so wierd 4 a person u anly so a pic of like marrage n staff
He is moving too fast. Tread very carefully. Sometimes guys WILL say whatever you want to hear, just to get you, I am sure you know that (as*uming you are over 16)
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Hey uncle (Li) iwhere can I find yur notes? Want some ideas on how to give agood blow ;)
http://teamwakeup.blogspot.com
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Hi Linda,
Ive been with him for 3months, I love him with every part of me. He wants me to meet the family Ive asked him to put that on hold thing is I have a 1yr old baby boy he is not the father.Im scared do you think I have reason to worry?
Only you can answer that, to be honest. From what I can see, there are two issues, here. Why do you want him to hold off meeting the folks? I as*ume because it is still early days in your relationship (for you). As for your son, he knew about him when you started dating. I don't see why it would be a problem now, if it didn't put him off back then. It will not be easy. But don't look for problems where there aren't any yet.
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my b.f recently gt a new job n i found owt dat he s intendin 2 make moves on colleagues , du i hv 2 confront hm ??
He is intending to make moves on colleagues? So, he is planning to make moves on colleagues he has not even met yet? How on earth do you address that? All that means is; He is permanently making moves on EVERYBODY.
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his family seems to come 1st.we\\\'ve been dating since Jan.I can\\\'t go to his place when his brothers r there. why is he behaving like a 14yr old at 36?Puzzled
Ok, this is a very old Qooh. So obviously this refers to Jan last year. Ok, my guess is that he was still not ready to have you meeting the family yet. Which is worrying in a relationship that is almost a year old. But everybody does things at their own pace. So, maybe he takes his time before doing the home intro.
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Hello Groetman!!i've been sein this guy for a mnth now,he asks bout my welbin,what are my plans,what time do i knock off,..does it mean he's genuinenly into me.
Only time and HE can tell. But don't waste your time trying to break the DaVinci code. Stop trying to interpret his words and actions. Just wait for him to say what's on his mind.
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hey linda ,i miss your dark,hard,big............
Umhlolo kaJames!
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Regarding my hubby who is planning a trip overseas to see his ex, I am not sure What my question is, but I have also discovered that he is asking his local ex's for casual *ex on FB.*devastated*
In my opinion, the answer here is as clear as day. You are holding on to a relationship of the past. I would suggest couple's therapy, but it is clear that he is planning his exit strategy.
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My friend told me that she's HIV+,her man of 3years infected her.He kept on cheating on her & abused her but she stood that & worse have *ex without a condom.If s/he cheats on you,love yourself enough to get out of that relationship before s/he ruins you!
I really feel for your friend. I hope her experience teaches others that just because you are in a committed relationship, you don't decide to stop using protection.
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we are in a distant r/ship.we brk up cos he gave me no attention nd makes me unhappy always.its a month nw nd he sent mesages 2 me on fb sayin his mind isnt free nd dsnt wnt 2 b blamed 4d brk up.is he feeling guilty of hw he treated me?do i reply his messages?
How can he NOT want to be blamed for the break up? According to what you say, he made you feel unappreciated and unloved. What is he going to do differently? Is this a case of "You never miss your water til it runs dry?" Will he stop appreciating you again once you are back together?
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M havin a big clit,i sometimes hide it in btwn the lips whn naked at gym.There was a time i was considerin cuttin it off bt my bf at the tym discouraged me.i feel it makes my cookie look horrible.is it nt a turn off on men?
Pls say somethin :-(
Considering that such a vast percentage of men can't even find the clit with a map, I'd say you are a blessing to most men. Girl, millions of women wish they had a clit that was easier to find. I am sure you have more orgasms than most women. Enjoy your orgasms. Stop being so self conscious about a whole lot of NOTHING.
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Yes I think I do have unresolved feelings for my ex..we have established contact and I find myself doubting how happy I realy am with my man..I miss my ex
Every time the thought of going back to an ex crosses your mind, think back to the moment you broke up. Why did you break up? What has changed about the reasons for the break up? And can you move on and ignore those reasons for ever, going forward?
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He was/is the love of my life.. Its so difficult to let go.. He hurt me real bad! But for sum odd reason, I can't bring myself 2 hate him. Is that weird? Pontso
You don't have to hate him. Wasting your energy hating somebody doesn't get you anywhere. Just move on. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better. Keep walking and don't look back.
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We've been together for almost a year and are married for 2 months,and my husband is planning an overseas trip for himself to see his ex. *devastated*
WHAT? Please tell me you are joking? Please help me understand....what is your question, here? Are you asking me how you should feel about this?
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My best guy friend says he likes me ! Told him I don't. His my friend I have a man and even if was single woulnt wanna jeapodize a good frienship he keeps tryin my man is all work lately and my friend knows this . Kanti how do men think?
Let me start by answering the last question. All men are different. So we all think differently. Having said that, my guess is; he looks at you and your man and he looks at the way you and HE relate and he is convinced that you two would be a better fit than you and your man. Stranger things have happened.
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am inlove with ths guy he has got a gf bt he loves me too..what shud i do?
And how do you know he loves you? Has he told you so? As things stand, even if he does love you...he loves her more. Otherwise he would be with you, not her.
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My bf introduced me 2 hs mom a while bk recently i found dat he hs anada gf nd he wrote hr name in hs rltnshp status in hs facebuk profile..im confused dnt knw whr i stand.. Wat do u thnk ths means?
To be honest with you, i don't think any of the two things mean anything at all. I know mothers who have met HUNDREDS of their son's girlfriends..so don't get THAT twisted. Her being on his profile also doesn't mean much, because all of that CAN be changed with the click of a button. What DOES matter, though, is the fact that you are being two timed and you are asking me what you should think about that. He is DATING another woman and for all intents and purposes, she is sitting there thinking she is his one and only like you. Yet you don't even have a sense of self worth to be UPSET at this? Your self esteem is my biggest worry here. That is what needs to be given attention first. Love yourself enough to say; I deserve better.
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Whr cn 1 go 2 find a decent marriage material man?
You could literally walk out your door and run into your future husband. The crucial part is this; are YOU ready? Are you happy and content in yourself? Are you comfortable in your own skin. In short....do YOU love yourself unconditionally? Because, surely you can't expect somebody else to love you if you don't love yourself.
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my fwb likes talking about his family(mom,bro,niece) and showing me their pics and he also likes asking bout my family!Could he be interested in being more than just bed mates?
Not necessarily. Stop reading too much into that. Some people just believe that as a shag buddy, you can actually BE a buddy too. Why you would choose to read that as him wanting a relationship....I just don't get.
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He waits for me to kiss him, if I am not then he asks me to kiss him. Why can't he just throw himself at me then kiss me #really confused girlfriend
That is very strange. He is a man, for heaven's sake. He is supposed to drive the relationship. Occasionally, you should make the first move, but, really....most of the time HE should. Clearly, he doesn't get that women need to feel wanted and desired. Men do to. But women probably 10 times more. Have a chat with him. Tell him how this makes you feel.
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We have 7 yrs diference between us, he says he loves me, and I see it in his eys but I need confirmation, as I ahve my insecurities about age, how do I confirm that he really loves me, and that I am the one, we have been dating for 6 smooth months
For as long as your age difference remains an issue for you, your relationship will NEVER work. You clearly have a problem looking past the age difference. And to make the relationship work, you would need to not even know that the age gap exists until somebody points it out. Until then, you guys are doomed. Seriously.
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Sure..i'm seeing this lady i really like but b4 her i was seeing some1 else then later found out she was pregnant, so i told my lady n she wants me out of her life n i'm crazy about her.. Wat do i do boss?
Bro, unfortunately, this is one of those "you've made your bed, now sleep in it" situations.
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Lady with a gay guy,now what do I do cause I think I love him,he hasn\'t done anything yet,but I am not settled around him,I feel so insure,a man called round abt 1am,and he didn\'t answer,the call ate me up,
I am VERY confused....so......you are dating a \"gay\" guy? I assume he is actually bi*exual, then. When you say \"he hasn\'t done anything yet\" do you mean done anything wrong, or do you mean the two of you haven\'t had *ex? Look, bottom line; it sounds like you have some serious trust issues. And to me it sounds like the issues are because he is bi*exual. Cos, needless to say you KNOW that you have to worry about both men and women getting between you.
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Hey linda, I love 2 give my bf bjs but he neva wants 2 give me head, says he doesn't like doing it... Shud I stop d bjs completely cos its unfair.
He is totally unfair. And clearly his pleasure is more important than yours to him. Your decision. It is easy for me to d=say stop giving him head. But if you actually ENJOY giving him head, then you would also be depriving yourself a pleasure that you enjoy.
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Hi Lindox! I want to plan a romantic weekend 4 my new man. What would you suggest I do for him? I already got two sets of lingerie for him. 1 dominatrix outfit and 1 innocent set. What else? Let's also suppose I may "pop the question" haha
What question might that be? Enjoy the outfits....but i hope it is not too early in the relationship. Don't scare the poor boy off!
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i luv dis guy bt he kips hurtng me, i wanna leave hm bt m scared of bein lonely, whr du i stat?
Let me ask you this...If you owned a Rottweiler, but he keeps on biting YOU when you got him to protect you, what do you do? When somebody's duty is to protect you, but he hurts you more than protects you...you have to walk. You deserve better. You need to learn to put YOU first.
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Have been dating the same guy that broke my virginity for the past 3 years and couple of Months but the Problem is I've fallen out of * I guess* but I'm afraid of moving on *exually
Take it easy on yourself. There really is no hurry. Wait til you find somebody that makes you comfortable enough to want to move on.
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Why do some women fart during *ex? I'm not talking about ***** farts, I'm talking about the real kind.
That means the *ex is so good, she forgets about being a lady and forgets about behaving....all muscles just relax and she lets herself go.
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He always asks me if i really luv hm. I gt this Q evryday its annoying. He says its hard to blive coz im "nt so convincing" I dnt knw wht to tell him anymo. I go all out to show him i do bt he wnt see it. Cud he b the 1whos nt honest abt hs feelings?
I get the feeling HE has the problem. Are YOU convinced of HIS love for you?
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Hw cn 1 tel if a relationshp is worth fighting 4?
You just know. If you have to ask....it probably isn't.
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Hi uncle L... He's in a divorce process and the girl doesn't want the divorce anymore... I came in his picture just few months ago and now that she's aware there's somebody else she's fighting, was I wrong to date him before he was done with the divorce?
Well, you can never tell your heart where to go. But, having said that, the timing was not great. I mean, you don't want to be his rebound girl, do you?
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iv been wit this guy 4 8mnths nw&I thot I ws inlove. He's just not romantic at all. HE says romantic gestures r fake.wen I meet guys that r romantic I end up flirting with them and losing interest in man. Wat shud I do?
I'd really like to break this down and find out what you mean by romantic gestures. I mean, let's face it, a man should always try to show his woman that she is special and important to him. Otherwise, as is happening to you, he is opening up doors for OTHERS to make you feel appreciated.
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Im so in love with my man,I want to spend the rest of my life with him,however mabane I found out that my ex whom i loved dearly is recently single..the news made my heart skip a beat with excitement. Is this normal?
Sounds like you still have unresolved feelings for your ex. And the only way is to confront them head on. Let me tell you a quick story. When i was young, I was not allowed to have chocolate. But there was a neighbour who would give me a little Milky Bar occasionally. That memory stayed in my mind and when i got older, I told myself i would have Milky Bars every single day. Ate one full bar and i HATED it. Maybe this guy is your Milky Bar. You want him because you can't have him.
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I have written a book celebrating women and looking for ways to maximise marketing it.. Any advise??
All I can say is; talk about it at every single opportunity. Please give me the details on where I can get my hands on a copy. I will definitely spread the word and tell everybody I talk to.
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Been datin 1yr but lately I haven't spent time in a mont with my man he has been workin hard. Says has to meet deadlines sumitin projects . Am I been selfish coz I want him to make time for me
No, you are not being selfish. There will always be work and deadlines. If he really wanted to, he would CREATE time for you.
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Linda,I have a serious problem. I recently got married,then and I know I made the right decision. I seem to not trust my husband though. That lack of trust is actually making me feel like a bit of hatred towards him. Help!
Has he done anything to cause you to distrust him? If not, then maybe you have some trust issues in general. How were you in previous relationships?
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My ex's cousin passed away!Sent him a "sweet" message to encourage him !He thanked me(usin my cute nickname) then asked if MY friend(female) is still alive?Huh?Does he want HER?He ddnt ask how I am!
Do YOU still want him? It sure sounds like it to me.
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whilst my bf was muffin me he used our vibratin ring &oh my! I just saw flames.afterwards i asked what it is exactly that he did.did he hav the ring inside me,was it around hz finger/tounge,etc &he totally refused 2tell &asked y i wanted 2kno.really?Why thou
His logic is; Why do you want to know. Who else do you wanna teach the trick to? He wants this one to be HIS move.
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is Uncle L married now???
No, I am not. I said I was getting married on 14 December. Didn't say which year.
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Wow how long have u been engaged?
I am not.